I've been thinking about flow for a long time. Like, an embarrassing amount of time. I've read the books, done the work, had the breakthroughs, and still found myself getting knocked completely out of it by something as small as a passing thought or a weird interaction with someone in a parking lot.
That used to frustrate me. Now I understand it a little better, and this conversation with Christy Whitman is a big part of why.
If you're someone who genuinely tries to stay in a good headspace and still can't figure out how to get into flow state consistently, the answer probably isn't that you need more tools. It's that something keeps triggering your survival brain without you realizing it, and once that happens, flow isn't just harder to access. It's neurologically unavailable.
How to Get Into Flow State When You Keep Getting Knocked Out of It
The version of flow most of us learned about is the peak performance version. Athletes. Musicians. Someone in the zone doing something they've practiced for 10,000 hours. That's real, but it's not the whole picture.
Christy talks about flow as your natural state. Not something you achieve. Something you return to when you stop fighting yourself. And I found that reframe genuinely useful, not in a bumper sticker way, but in a practical way. Because if flow is the default, then the question isn't how do I get there, it's what keeps pulling me out.
Her answer: judgment. Comparison. Negative self-talk. Worry. All the things that feel like just normal thinking but are actually triggering a biological response. The moment your brain registers “this is bad,” your survival instinct kicks in. Energy floods to the back of the brain, where reaction and protection live. And the prefrontal cortex, where creativity and intuition and clarity happen, basically goes quiet.
I'm currently pregnant and running a business and honestly my nervous system is getting a workout right now. So this conversation landed differently than it might have six months ago. I kept recognizing myself in what Christy was describing. The spiraling. The reaching for something to make the feeling stop. The vague sense of being stuck even when nothing is technically wrong.
Why Your Flow Keeps Breaking Right Before Something Good
This was the part of the conversation that genuinely rearranged something for me.
I've heard from a lot of different traditions, religious, spiritual, productivity-based, that resistance spikes right before a breakthrough. I grew up with the religious version of it. I've heard the spiritual version. I've read the productivity version. But nobody had ever explained the actual mechanism to me until Christy did.
When you set a new intention, everything within you that isn't in vibrational alignment with it has to come up. Not to stop you. To be cleared so you can actually become the version of yourself who can hold what you're asking for.
My husband is stepping into a big business opportunity right now and watching this happen in real time was wild. One day total excitement, next day complete imposter syndrome. I kept telling him, you are a conduit for this. You've been building toward it for 15 years. The opportunity came to you. And after that conversation things would shift and then the next block would surface.
That's the process. It's not a sign you're on the wrong path. It's what expansion actually looks like from the inside.
The Survival Brain Loop That Keeps You Stuck
Christy maps out three states of being in her book The Flow Factor, and it's one of those things that seems simple until you start applying it and realize how much of your day you're spending in the wrong one.
The lowest state is the lack state. Fear, doubt, powerlessness, worry. Flow is completely inaccessible from here. The middle state is neutrality. Peace, calm, satisfaction. Not exciting, but okay. And that's actually the entry point back into flow, through compassion first, and then up from there.
Most of us skip the middle. We try to go from anxiety straight to high-vibe creation and wonder why it doesn't stick. The move is neutrality first. Getting yourself to “I'm okay” is not settling. That's the actual path.
The thing that brings you back to neutrality, according to Christy, is compassion. And not in a vague self-love way. In a really specific energetic way. She talks about it as feeling your soul wrapping around you, light pouring through the back of your head and neck, which is apparently where there's a literal release valve for survival-mode energy. I found this fascinating and immediately started trying it.
About Christy Whitman
Christy is a New York Times bestselling author and the founder of the Quantum Success Coaching Academy. She's been teaching at the intersection of universal law and practical transformation for over 20 years. Her new book is The Flow Factor, and she also runs a free 30-day program at watchyourwords.com specifically around the language patterns that quietly pull your energy into lack without you realizing it.
What I appreciate about her work is that she doesn't separate the science from the spirituality. She uses both because they're describing the same thing. That's the kind of teacher I trust.
What a Bushwhack Is and Why You Need a Word for It
Christy coined this term and I immediately adopted it because I had never had a word for this specific thing before.
A bushwhack is when you're moving along just fine and something completely blindsides you. Someone says something. You get an email. You find out you weren't invited somewhere. And suddenly you're completely out of flow and you don't even know how you got there.
Her real-life example was finding out she wasn't invited to her best friend's daughter's wedding, only to the second reception. She described sitting at lunch, feeling the gut-punch of it, dropping her awareness into her belly, letting herself feel the hurt right there in the moment rather than pushing it away. Getting in the car afterward and calling her husband and letting another wave come. Processing it rather than bypassing it or dramatizing it.
That's a skill. Most of us either shove it down or spiral on it for three days. The actual move is to let the emotion complete. Christy says it takes about 90 seconds when you actually let it happen. The stuck feeling comes from the emotion being contained, not released.
The Uncomfortable Part of Getting Into Flow State
Understanding this stuff intellectually is not the same as doing it.
I say that as someone who has spent years reading, learning, and talking about consciousness and still finds herself white-knuckling through hard moments sometimes. There's a version of inner work that stays entirely in your head and never moves into your body, and that version can actually keep you more stuck because it gives you the feeling of doing something without the actual release.
Christy is really direct about this. The emotion has to move. Not be understood. Not be analyzed. Moved. And the entry point for that is dropping awareness into your belly, which is where your emotional body actually lives, and letting it pulse through rather than containing it.
I've noticed this in myself. The difference between genuinely processing something and thinking about processing something is significant. One actually changes how I feel. The other just gives me more material to think about.
Words Are Pulling You Out of Flow More Than You Realize
Near the end of our conversation Christy brought up something that I completely agreed with: words are the spark of everything. The layers of consciousness she talks about, perception, thoughts, feelings, words, actions, all start with language. And most people have habitual words and phrases that quietly pull their energy into lack all day long without ever noticing.
“I can't afford it.” “I should have.” “I'll try.” These aren't just negative phrases. They're energetic inputs that drop you into that low state before you've even had a chance to think about it.
I've done my own version of this audit. I stopped using the word manifesting because it had too much noise around it for me personally, too many associations that created more resistance than openness. Christy gets that. Her 30-day program at watchyourwords.com is built around exactly this, 30 short videos that walk you through what not to say, why, and what to use instead. I think it's a genuinely useful place to start if you know your language matters but haven't actually looked at it closely.
How to Start Getting Into Flow State This Week
The practice Christy recommends isn't a morning routine. It's an all-day thing, and it's faster than you'd expect.
When you catch yourself in survival mode, drop your awareness to the back of your head and neck and imagine that activated energy releasing out. Move your attention down into your belly. Give yourself compassion for being human in a hard moment. Then ask what you actually want to feel and start bringing that energy in.
That's it. Ten seconds, done throughout the day, consistently. She also uses a visualization of standing under a waterfall of light and letting it fill her up with whatever quality she needs, vitality, success, calm. She told a story about nearly going for her third coffee of the day, sitting in her car instead, filling herself up with the energy of vitality, and going home without the coffee. And she said she stopped drinking coffee after that. I found that story oddly moving.
Resources and Links From This Episode
- Christy's book The Flow Factor at theflowfactorbook.com
- Free 30-day word program at watchyourwords.com
- All links at mindlove.com/456
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