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034: The Surprising Psychology of BDSM

By July 10, 2018April 21st, 2021One Comment

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Today we’re exploring a realm I have yet to hear on a mindfulness show, but I really think there are so many benefits to being opening your mind to things outside of your comfort zone and when I go over some of these stats in a minute, you’ll see why.

We’re talking about BDSM with a professional dominatrix. BDSM stands for bondage, discipline, sadism and masochism. There’s a saying that there’s a fine line between pain and pleasure but for those that partake in BDSM, that line is pretty blurred.

Thanks to 50 Shades of Grey, BDSM is more popular than ever. According to OkCupid’s 2015 Hangover report, 58 percent of users have a desire to participate in bondage.

A wise man name Jay Wiseman once said, “A pervert is anybody kinkier than you are.”

So are people with these more extreme sexual practices freaks or sexual deviants?

Here’s where it gets interesting. Recent psychological studies have actually shown that in most area, people into this sort of thing might actually be happier, and healthier.

There was a study done in 2006 that showed, compared to the normative samples, BDSM practitioners had lower levels of depression, anxiety, post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), psychological sadism, psychological masochism, borderline pathology, and paranoia. But they did display higher levels of narcissism and dissociation. Makes sense.

Ok how about this one in 2013. that showed BDSM practitioners exhibited higher levels of extraversion, conscientiousness, openness to experience, and subjective well-being. In this on the one negative trait was they showed lower levels of agreeableness.

If I wasn’t already curious… ahem I was… I definitely am now.

Today we are lifting the veil and our guest is actually a professional dominatrix named Collette Pervette. She has been practicing the art of intimacy and power exchange for the past 13 years. She holds a PhD in Human Development and Education from UC Berkeley. She thinks our fantasies and suffering and have the potential to lead us to our higher purpose.

Today we will learn:

  1. How becoming vulnerable can deepen intimacy
  2. How to get the courage to speak your own hidden desires
  3. How to be more open and accepting toward people and situations in your life

Learn More About Colette Pervette

Colette Pervette Professional Dominatrix

Colette Pervette

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Colette is a professional dominatrix, where she has been practicing the art of intimacy and power exchange for the past 13 years. She is interested in exploring the role of our fantasies and suffering and its potential to lead us to our higher purpose. She’s currently creating an intimate virtual playground, called Pervette, where you can choose your own erotic adventure. She holds a PhD in Human Development and Education from UC Berkeley.

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