fbpx Skip to main content
HappinessHealthMind Body SoulMind ScienceMindfulnessMindsetPodcast

248: Your Chronic Indecision Might Be Anticipatory Anxiety with Dr. Sally Winston

By September 20, 2022February 2nd, 2023No Comments

Do you have a hard time making up your mind? Do you ever wonder why some people just choose and you… can’t?

We all do it sometimes. It’s actually really common to avoid making decisions if you haven’t noticed. But most people tend to get on with their lives. While others let it stop them from living, or at least living well.

If you look up why people are indecisive, you’ll get a number of answers like people pleasing, perfectionism, or a fear of taking responsibility.. but all of these come back to one thing: anticipatory anxiety.

Anticipatory anxiety is essentially getting anxious about the possibility of being anxious. It’s when you basically get hijacked by your own imagination.

But the thing is, indecision is not a personality trait. It’s a behavioral problem.

The good news is, that means it can be changed. And in order to change it, it’s helpful to understand our personal areas of sensitivity, the patterns we create when we avoid decisions, and the underlying issues that can cause it. So that’s what we’re talking about today.

Our guest is Dr. Sally Winston. She is a clinical psychologist, a master clinician in anxiety disorders and OCD, and co-author of 4 books with Dr. Martin Seif. She’s also the founder and Executive Director of the Anxiety and Stress Disorders Institute.

We Will Learn

  • Why trying harder to face your fears, and using willpower to force decisions, simply do not work.
  • Why avoidance reinforces anticipatory anxiety and chronic indecisiveness.
  • The five steps of surrender to overcome indecision.


Want more Mind Love in your Life?

You know I love to chat….especially with you! Snap a screenshot and tag me @mindlovemelissa on Instagram as you’re listening to this week’s episode. And remember to hashtag #mindlovepodcast, that way I can share your screenshot on my story too!

One more surprise ✨: Want to connect with the Mind Love community? Come join Mind Love’s Mastermind Facebook Group.

Subscribe and Review The Mind Love Podcast

Want to stay up-to-date on the latest episodes and strategies? Subscribe in iTunes and you’ll be the first to know when new episodes drop.

If you want to be featured on the show as a reviewer of the week, I’d be super stoked to hear from you. Click here to leave a review.

Share This Episode

Notify of
Inline Feedbacks
View all comments